Narc Abuse and the Evils of NPD & AsPD [Dec. 20th 2022]

Content warning: Anti-PD stigma (specifically anti-ASPD/NPD), abuse | Word Count: 867

People are very, very emotionally attached to the concept of narcissistic abuse. People can be obsessive about identifying narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, bipolars, and borderlines--the evil disorders, obviously. There's quite the movement to normalize this standpoint, to advocate it, and specifically sell it to extremely vulnerable people, mainly child abuse survivors.

I'm not really here to debunk the concept of narcissistic/sociopathic/psychopathic abuse. First, because I don't want to, but second, because I don't think point-by-point dissection of that concept is the best way to combat it.

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Kippot [Dec. 16th 2022]

Content warning: None | Word Count: 272

שבת שלום (Good shabbat)

Our kippot (skullcaps/yarmulkes) arrived today, just after sundown--right on time for the shabbat, actually. (Sidenote: my spellchecker marked "shabbat" as a misspelling of "sabbath," so that's interesting.)

The only kippah we've ever owned is a leftover bat mitzvah kippah that we were given at temple on Yom Kippur this year, so it's very different. They're nice, though. We got two: one for me, and one for my headmates to share. Both kippot are . . .

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What Do I Mean When I Say "Empath"? [Dec. 9th 2022]

Content warning: Anti-PD stigma (specifically anti-ASPD/NPD) | Word Count: 369

The common idea of an empath, the one that comes to mind when I say the word, is of someone--often with a "normal" mental illness, like anxiety or depression--who believes that they feel everyone else's feelings and have a special ability to recognize others' emotions. They're (rightly) ridiculed for crossing boundaries, behaving self-righteously, and claiming that their "high empathy" makes them superior.

The other kind of "empath" that people recognize is those who use it to mean "high empathy," without making the above claims. High empathy people tend to complain . . .

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The Sociopath's Apology [Dec. 8th 2022]

Content warning: None | Word Count: 166

The idea that my “sorry” counts for less because I don’t feel guilt is probably one of the most nonsensical empathnormative things I’ve ever heard.

People aren’t better when they’re driven by guilt. Actually, the opposite is true. Apologies motivated by shame almost always come out self-loathing and manipulative. The guilt driven apology is motivated by a desire to feel better.

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